Song of thanksgiving

Timmie Barber (Photo by Sarah Matray)
Timmie Barber (Photo by Sarah Matray)

O give thanks to the LORD, for He is good: for His mercy endures forever. Psalms 107:1

Columnist_logo_Dina_DelfinoWhen I hear my daughter say: “Thank you mom for dinner… for coffee… for picking up Eva…” my heart leaps. The spirit of gratitude is like music to one’s ears.

One person whose life is one song of thanksgiving is Timmie Barber who turns 90 this year. By the time this article is published, we would have celebrated Timmie’s milestone with friends. With no family to call her own, here or overseas, Timmie’s life is a testimony of God’s goodness despite her aloneness. Often people hear her say: “Praise the Lord!” “Thank you Lord!”, and she expresses her gratitude unashamedly, sincerely and earnestly.

Born on 8 April 1926, at Bacolod Provincial Hospital in Negros Occidental, she was the apple of her parents’ eyes, Jose Barber Ruiz and Isabel Sodusta. Her dad was a certified public accountant and her mom a certified nurse. Both passed away in their 60s.

She was educated at the American International School, and graduated from Siliman University with a degree in education. She later became a teacher for two years in their town, but the family moved to Manila so his father could teach Mathematics.

Her father wanted her to go to America to pursue her music career as she also graduated with a bachelor’s degree in music. But unfortunately he passed away. Timmie decided to try her luck in Australia and brought her adopted son, an Iranian national whom she helped educate when his father died in Iran. He finished architecture. In 1998, he passed away due to stomach cancer, aged 45.

Timmie Barber (Photo by Sarah Matray)
Timmie Barber (Photo by Sarah Matray)

Timmie busied herself and founded the Modern Filipiniana Modelling School, teaching her students poise, refinement, grooming, and confidence. She became a popular tutor to candidates of Philippine beauty pageants and could turn even the “stiff” or “most awkward” contestant into a potential winner.

At 65, she retired from this profession to rest and pursue her spiritual goals. Timmie’s intimacy to her faith started in her early childhood, being member of a choir, and later became a music director in church events back in the Philippines. She has been a devout Catholic all her life and this is where she spends most of her time now- serving at St Augustine’s Church in Bourke Street, Melbourne in many different ministries as a volunteer.

When her adopted son died, she experienced a trial of faith, but persevered and held on to her trust and devotion to God more, as the periods of aloneness re-surfaced. But God, she says, is a Father who provides for her needs- small and big. Every day is a day of miracles for her. All she needs to do is trust.

When she was about to find herself “homeless” she was rescued by the Department of Human Services who gave her a lovely one bedroom apartment, overlooking the beach at a decent, quiet environment, where she now lives. When she needed a fan, she ended up winning a raffle for one. She goes to Bingo regularly to socialise, catch up with friends, evangelise, and win some pocket money. She says it is also good for brain health.

At 90, she has no medication, has not been confined in hospitals with major illnesses and can still walk around. I asked what her secret is. I joked it could have been the absence of stress from a husband and children! And we laugh!

At 90, she knows that death is around the corner and her perspective about it is positive. She says that if the good Lord wants her home, she is ready anytime and she is not afraid. Her love for Jesus is strong enough for her to believe He will take care of her until the end.

Thus, she does not complain, grumble or get upset by life’s many quirks. She takes one day at a time and is very grateful for all the blessings she receives.

As she has no immediate kin, we have adopted each other as family. We have sat together for her Advanced Care Planning, and discussed her pathway when that critical time comes, which alleviates my angst since I know precisely what she prefers when that life-changing moment transpires.

Max Lucado shares: “The grateful heart is like a magnet sweeping over the day, collecting reasons for gratitude. A zillion diamonds sparkle against the velvet of your sky every night. Thank you, God. A miracle of muscles enables your eyes to read these words and your brain to process them. Thank you, God. Your lungs inhale and exhale eleven thousand litres of air every day. Your heart will beat about three billion times in your lifetime. Your brain is a veritable electric generator of power.

Thank you, God. Join the ranks of the 10 percent who give God a standing ovation.”(An Attitude of Gratitude, October 8, 2013)

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Dina Mananquil-Delfino
Dina was a former editor-in-chief of The Philippine Times and has been its columnist for over 20 years. She has written two books, "Colours of Life" and "Under His Wings". Dina has been in the helping field for 40 years in the various roles she had fulfilled- teacher, employee in different organisations, volunteer, pastoral care worker. She is a member of Australian Counsellors of Australia (ACA) and Counsellors Victoria (CV). She brings into her practice her unique style of helping and understanding, having been exposed to various roles involving different cultures. She can relate to the challenges change brings. In her published book Colours of Life, she shares the angst and joy of being a migrant. As a Pastoral Care worker, she has helped many individuals and families empower themselves and encourage them to achieve order in their otherwise chaotic life. She also facilitates/conducts regular workshops/teachings in personal development. Dina’s strength is in pastoral care, assisting people journey through the difficult moments of serious illness, loss and bereavement, helping newly-arrived migrants, and emotionally embracing the elderly and senior members of the community, moving them to work towards a new vision of settlement, hope and comfort. DINA IS A QUALIFIED COUNSELOR AND PASTORAL CARE WORKER. She can be contacted on 0430 214 917. Email for comments or feedback on this story).


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