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Why do so many Filipino women want to marry American or Australian men?

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Because of the internet and social media, it is now easier for men and women to meet someone from the other side of the world. It’s not so hard to imagine why marriages between different races are now prevalent.

Every year, Australian men sponsor thousands of Filipino women to come to Australia as their wives or fiancees. However, some argue that Filipino women marry foreigners not for love but primarily for financial stability. Why do Filipino women want to marry foreigners, specifically American and Australian men?

Marrying for money is normal for some Asian countries, especially in the Philippines. The Philippines, once a third world country, is currently a developing country. However, the opportunity for a better life is still limited. The lack of access to health care and education intensifies the need to get out of poverty as fast as possible. 

Another thing to consider is that Filipino women are deeply attached to their families. Marrying a wealthy foreigner for money is not frowned upon, so long as she will help in improving the lives of her parents and siblings. 

Filipinos also have this notion that people earning dollars are financially well-off. It is also the reason why most Filipinos prefer to work abroad. Filipino women, especially those with poor educational backgrounds, see foreigners as their ticket out of poverty.

Most people still find the practice wrong, but can we blame the Filipino women for wanting a better life? Even though the Filipina woman is benefitting by being financially stable, the foreign man also gains companionship and care. 

Some Filipino women marry white foreign men for the opportunity provided by the origin country of the foreigner. As mentioned earlier, the Philippines is still a developing country. It doesn’t offer the same benefits for its citizens as America or Australia does. The opportunity of studying or working abroad is a tremendous privilege for Filipinos. 

Quality education, although a right, is not readily available to all Filipinos. Most public schools that are funded by the government are overcrowded and have inadequate facilities. Private schools that offer better facilities and quality teaching are expensive. The parents usually push their eldest to finish his studies first. Once the eldest child starts working, he now has to support his younger siblings financially as they continue with their studies.

A typical Filipino working in Manila earns about USD10 a day. Those living in the provinces earn way lower. Working abroad has always been a dream for most Filipinos struggling to survive from what little they make.  It is another opportunity to send money to their family back home, giving them a more comfortable life to live.

For those considering international travel or relocation, finding affordable flights is often a key concern. Budget airlines like Jetstar offer routes between the Philippines and Australia, making travel more accessible. Using a Jetstar Coupon Code can provide significant savings on airfare, potentially easing the financial burden for those pursuing relationships or opportunities abroad. However, it’s important to factor in additional costs such as baggage fees when budgeting for international travel.

Another factor to consider is the beauty standards of the Philippines. Filipinos adore fair and white skin. Most Filipino women use bleaching products and whitening supplements to achieve a whiter skin color. Having a tall nose is another beauty standard that is common to Filipinos. Parents would even pinch their child’s nose bridge. They believe that this will help in making the child’s nose grow taller. 

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As you’ve noticed, the standard of beauty of Filipinos is very un-Filipino like. Some believe that it’s related to the country’s colonial mentality. Decades ago, Filipinos with Spanish or American heritage used to have a higher social status. This idea is still part of the Filipino culture today. Plenty of Filipino celebrities have caucasian features instead of Filipino traits. 

Although Filipino women are attracted to Australians and Americans, most of them do not marry young and charming guys. Most Americans and Australians that marry Filipino women are often old and not-so-attractive. However, it is also possible that Filipino women want the caucasian look for their future children instead. If you’ve been to the Philippines, you will notice that most Filipinos are mixed-race – American, Australian, Chinese, Korean, etc.


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If most Filipino women marry for these reasons, and not for love, then why do foreigners still want to marry them? It’s because Filipino women are different from Western women. Aside from physical differences, Filipino women have a different culture and personality the most foreigners love.

Filipinos are family-oriented. They care for their families and respect their elders. Marrying a Filipino woman means you’ll be part of a loving and caring family. Traditional family values are still deeply rooted in the Flipino culture. Because of this, respect and companionship will play a significant role in Filipino women’s relationships. It’s also an advantage if the foreign man is planning to start a family because Filipino women are dedicated and will do everything for their families.  

Filipino women also want a harmonious and fulfilling relationship. She will take care of her husband and will satisfy his needs as much as she can. Filipino women are also loyal and respectful. It’s part of their upbringing and culture. 

Despite the bad image associated with Filipino women, let us keep in mind that the marriage won’t push through without the consent of the foreign man. Most foreign men looking for a Filipino wife are middle-aged or older. Some are divorced and came from angry and bitter relationships. It’s also the reason why most people assume that the Filipino woman married the man for money. If it’s not because of the man’s attractiveness, then what else? 

Yes, most Filipina women marry for money. However, they also do it in the hopes of learning to love the man eventually. This belief is common for arranged marriages, but it’s also applicable in this situation. Despite the age gap and other people’s judgment, Filipino women usually believe that they will learn to love their husbands genuinely in time.

Some may say that Filipino women see marriage as nothing but a simple business transaction. Perhaps in some cases, that is true. Still, some couples do it for love. Genuine relationships rooted from love and friendship exists. It can be hard to believe because of the stereotypes that come with this kind of relationship. However, they do exist. 

It can be hard to stop judging this type of relationships, especially when some Filipino women do marry for money. Nevertheless, let us remember that we all have different preferences in life. As long as the relationship is harmonious, then let us respect their decision.

What can you say about this article? Please post your comment below.

Originally posted on 6 May 2010

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117 COMMENTS

  1. because the Phillipines is a relatively poor country and marriage to a man from a rich country probably means a “richer” life.

  2. cos they are fed up with small skinny filipiono penis, they need all the time thick n stronger stick in them

  3. I am a Filipino but I don’t dream marrying an American, Australian, or any.

    I’d say some Filipinos go for that but if you ask all women here, they’d say they’d rather want to marry a person of their own race. For 20,000 women, only one is likely to get married to a foreign man.

    some do marry Americans or Australians or whoever possible because they want to escape from the reality they see in the Philippines. There are some possibilities to happen in marrying a foreign individual.

    Some well-off also marry these kinds of people even if they don’t need because in the philippines, we don’t really care about anyone’s race. Anyone is accepted here. That answers why we are not born racists.

    To answer your follow up question, Americans or Australians marry Filipinos because we take care of relationship and we were born and raised to value everyhting. One morething is that, we can easily adjust to different culture…

    Only a Filipino can answer this well…

    For more results, repost this question under the category of TRAVEL > ASIA PACIFIC > PHILIPPINES..
    There are many Filipino participants there….

  4. I think that so many Filo women want to marry American or Australian men because they each have their own reasons for doing or wanting to.

    I dont think that it is possible to put all the Filo women together in saying that they want to marry for money or better life, maybe it is because they find the men loving, caring and adorable. I know that if you were to ask 10 different women this question they would each have a different answer.

    For you 2nd question you asked the same sort of question but just turned the nationalities around.

    I cant answer on behalf of a Filo women or an Aussie man, but i can say that you have sterotyped the people mentioned in your question.

    Maybe you could have asked about other “white men” or “asian women” But sadly that’d still be a sterotype.

    The other thing is that you didnt say which nationality you are. So how do you know that the figure of filo women wanting to marry aussie or american men is so high?

    Here’s a little insight for you though. I’m australian and my husband is chinese and we live in Australia, so are you saying that he married me for money or a better life? I doubt it, he and i married because we love, care, adore, cherish, trust, each other.

    I hope you find the answer that you are looking for.

  5. So they can get out of that god forsaken hell hole. My brother married one when he was in the service in the 60’s. Adopted her 2 kids too. She was never more than one big pain in the….kidney.
    Ungrateful surly reeling-ripe vain shard bone ratsbane scut! And still too mean to die.
    This is one American man ended up wanting to jump in the time machine

  6. its a green card to get in our country thats all,you see it all the time how they marry the men stay for 3mths or so in a marriage then divorce them, bingo their us or aust citizen.and what i hate they dont even want to learn our culture speaks english i reckon not there language follow our rules

  7. it’s because of poverty and for them marrying a foreigner will make their life better.

  8. it is sad when people are stereotyping. It is possible to love and cherish someone no matter what race he or she belongs to. There is nothing wrong if the other has come from poor country and the other one from a richer country. But in saying that women or men marrying people from richer country for gold or better life happens and it’s not fair when filipino women are being stereotyped because it also happens to other countries like russia, india, thailand,vietnam, it doesn’t where you are in this world. I live in Australia and sometimes even local australian would marry somebody for money to rip them off their wealth or money or property. So we don’t have the right to pass on judgement and stereotype these people

  9. Stereotyping cant help.But I think it depends on the circumstances of a person.Lets just say,a common reason while a Filipina marries, not really want to marry,a foreigner because she believes that it can lift her out of poverty .She is looking for a Knight in Shining Armor.But in some cases,she ended up a battered and abused housewife. Ive seen a number of them here in Australia where I live .Some Filipinas who married Australians are very well off and satisfied with their lives while sadly some Filipinas did some acts shameful to the Filipino Community. Short to say, some Filipinas were lucky and some are not.

  10. Philipine women MUST learn that the only way to get rid from the poverty is pursuing EDUCATION.Be smart girls to not rely on your beauty because beauty won`t stand forever.Don`t be so desperate marry foreigner out to get rid from poverty.But as you wish girls if you want your destiny as men`s toys.

  11. Easy answer to this one.

    Filipinas strive to marry white foreigners to escape from their misery of domestic poverty and overbearing mothers who force their daughters to be the breadwinners for the family.

  12. Hi,i am an aussie who has been to the phils back and forth to be with my fiancee there,i’m planning to go live there in the future,it’s not about filipinas,or aussies or yanks,its about being with the person you love so much,i have known her for 2 yrs,and cant wait to settle there,a wonderful hard working family she is part of,and i love them all,and i get it back from them,like i said i dnt go looking for a filipina girl,i just found her by chance,and we are so lucky.It’s not all smut and doing things for money there,there are genuine lovely people in that country,and i cant wait to be there again.

  13. Question is –> why so many Aussie or American men wanted to marry Filipinas? It is simply because, most of these men are losers in their own country and they couldn’t find a nice woman to marry!

  14. In response to jayjays comment above, may I respond by saying that the reason many Australian men marry Filipina women is that Australian women are not known for their gentle nature, kindness, compassion and understanding….quite the opposite. They have their social and legal equality with men but their attitude toward men stinks as a rule…you screw them once but they screw you of everything you have with the support of the legal system. THATS WHY. !!

  15. Facts are simply: proverty, corruption, and filipino men who can’t afford a living for their Filipinia women. They dream and want a better life for themselves and their family. They would rather live and suffer not really loving any American, Australian, or foreigner as money means more to them then their own feelings.

    It is also why most foreigners go to Philippines as women in their own country wouldn’t give them the time or day, nor would they copulate with them as most are old, fat, and don’t know how too treat women. But common to see an old man with younger Flipinia women—they both have their own reasons.

    Sign Filipina women

  16. @Dee you seem to forget that many millions of us cannot pursue our education. Its OK if you have money for school and college but many of us do now. I don’t dream of marrying a foreigner, I dream about finishing my education, but its a far and distant dream for me. I hope one day will come true but its unlikely.

  17. I agree with ‘samwgdavis’ and ‘a filipina in australia’
    – filipino women have a totally different mindset about relationships. trust me i’m a younger guy rather than the older white guy standard, my aussie gf’s drove me up the wall, the filipino people are so much better. from what i can tell after spending much time over there, it’s never about poverty, corruption (“filipina woman insight’, you comments are complete rubbish). they main reason why they try to get western man, is the filipino men! they know western men have different attitude towards women.

  18. agree ako sa sinabi ni chiiky25. hindi lang pera ang dahilan kung bakit ang pinipili ng ibang mga pilipina or pilipino na magasawa ng banyaga ng banyaga. May kanya-kanya tayong valid na rason sa mga choices na pinipili natin na mangyari sa ating buhay. Kung ang iba kontento nang manirahan sa pilipinas yon ay sa dahilang nakita nila ang magandang buhay sa pilipinas in terms of life and relationship to another individual. Ang masasabi ko lang..kung nagasawa man ng banyaga or foreigner ang isang pilipino hindi dahil sa pera lang..parang napakalaking insulto naman ito sa mga banyaga na pinakasalan or inasawa lang sila ng pilipino dahil sa kanilang pera or sa kung anong meron sila na pweding i-take advantage ng mga pilipino. Ang pag aasawa ay desisyon ng dalawang taong nasa wastong edad at pagiisip na gawin ang sa palagay nilang makakapagpasaya sa kanilang mga sarili. Basta ako masasabi ko sa mga kapwa ko pilipino na gawin nyo ang sa palagay nyong makakabuti at makakapagsaya sa buhay ninyo. Don’t be afraid to try kasi ma-pilipino man or foreigner ang mapapangasawa pareho-pareho lang ang mga tao. May mababati at may mga tarando and it applied to both pilipino and foreigner. Marami akong nakitang magasawa na di naging successful ang kanilang pagsasama pero marami din namang naging successful. The bottom line is minsan lang tayo mabuhay..practice your freedom and don’t be afraid. Huwag pansinin ang sasabihin ng ibang tao dahil hindi sila ang may karapatang magdesisyon sa kung ano ang makakabuti sa buhay mo..IKAW LANG at wala nang iba. Pilipino man or foreigner ang pipiliin mong mapapangasawa go for which ever you think is right for you!!! God bless.

  19. What a crock! You ask any Filo woman if they would marry a westerner and 99.9% of them would say yes. The rest would say no simply because they have a better standard of liviing the Phillipines than most. Just take a look at Hong Kong, Causeway Bay….. EVERY SINGLE maid is filo. Not one isnt. Racism has nothing to do with anything here. But filo women as well as alot of chinese, vietnamese marry westerners not through love or respect but just through pure selfishness, then when they get too comfortable living in their new western lifestyle they decide to up the pace and become extremely demanding. I dont know how anyone can live a deceitful life like this, so fake and mechanical. Every dating website or gaming website has filo, vietnamese, chinese and thai women plastered all over them scouting for the right idiot to give them just what they want.

  20. “question- Why do so many Australian or American men marry Filipino women?”

    most of the comments are rubbish and/or racist (exept for “marrying filipina” and “Filipina women insight”). Shame on you people!!!!!! You really sound un-educated and/or un-cultured. What is wrong with looking outside (another national) for a better life, does this ring any bells Austalians/Americans (your ancestors did similar) well unless you are Aboriginal or American Indian!!!! I too am a young Australian single dad looking outside for a chance at a new life with the one that i love and yes she is a Filipino. I too are looking outside for the same reasons. In a nut shell Australian women have and want too much.

  21. You are talking about poor filipino. Try to ask a rich filipina and she would say no to your fat ass. Some of educated filipina would stick their ass to a filipino because foreigners are stinky.

  22. Maybe there are just lots of single women in the Philippines. And lots of lonely western men. Could there be a symbiotic relationship??

  23. it doesnt matter which country you live in , all over the world there are women and men who marry for money not just filipino . maybe im one of the lucky ones as my filipino wife did not need money , when i met her she had her own career and financially stable. we lived together for 3.5 yrs before getting married, i am 53yrs old she is 39yrs old, and our relationship is one of love , actually she earns more than i do, and all house hold duties are shared by us both as we both work. we have joint bank account, we both contribute to any financial goals or major purchases. i think any nation in this world you will always find a minority of gold diggers.

  24. WHO CARES??!!!
    Pinay, Aussie, Gringos, whatever…
    People have choices. Whatever food we eat, wherever our feet takes us, whomever we want to marry is no ones business. Plain and simple.
    If locals wants to marry foreigners and live overseas, congratulations!
    If you choose to be miserable, so be it. As long as we respect each other, then this lonely planet will be all smiles!!!

  25. if you will ask me why i want to marry white people its because their beauty is really adorable and very different from us filipino.. and im looker for a real love which i didnt find from filipino guy.. for me it just doesnt work out. and american can provide my needs..and the mixture of baby is amazing..but if i would be dealing with an american man that is horrible id rather choose to be be with my own race…im not trying to after their money or watever it is..if i can find a good white man i would go for it.aside from having a good look husband i can be provided well and american man is loving…

  26. without their help i can live a better life here in philippines..but im attracted to a white man.i just wanted to be real.its not all about the money… people who thinks about that has small mind. try to put your feet in our shoes so that u would know how it feel.i just wanted to be real…

  27. i believe its all about being with some one who you choose to spend the rest of youer life with…when you get older money is not the center of merrage it would all about the feeling.being inlove and be loved.the care the comapanion..and i believe that white people likes filipina woman its because we are different from other girls in other country we dont just sleep with a guy we didnt know..its dirrty..its a low standard gurl ..the’re putting their degnity very low.they let different kinds of man use them.we are not like that..we dont play for love thats what makes us very different. . .i was shock when i read some of the comments here.. its like their mind are close.and that their heart is full of anger.its very horrible.

  28. I am a filipina who married an american. I don’t think it’s about money. Yes, the Philippines is a poor country. But the truth is life in the Philippines is WAY BETTER than in US. I had a good paying job, I am able to sustain myself, and able to give something to my family. And when I got to US, I had to work twice as hard as I did in the Philippines, my husband had 10 times more bills and debts to pay, he is 10 years older than I am, he is not rich at all. LIFE IN US IS HARD!!! But still I chose to marry him, and I am very happy with my decision, all because I love him and he loves me, and I’ve never felt happier in my life. When I’m with him, I feel complete, and my happiness is serving him, and being his wife and mother to our kids.

  29. i think the reason why filipino women marry western men is because,they find them a real man( who knows how to care for their woman and be responsible for the relationship,a man who looks forward to lovely marriage and future.)that a woman should loved and devoted for the rest of her life.cus sadly these days most of filipino men here just wanted to get the girl’s virginity and just have a good fun.After that they will drop the girl like a broken toy.so its not really about poverty.while with western men they desire filipino women character like being faithful,submissive,caring and loving to their partners.And even to the point of feeding their loved men like a child and preparing their bath and clothes.western men desire to have this kind of caring which i think its distincly filipino women.filipino women are trained from childhood by their mothers to take care very well of their husbands to be.from washingg the clothes to cooking in meeting their husband needs or being a loving wife.So i think western men and filipino women meet at the common point….

  30. I am an American, and my fiancee is Filipina. While are superficial differences may be exotic or appealing to each other, we have been together for 2 years and deeply love each other. A couple of comments are way off base or simply ignorant stereotypes. First, the age difference: we are 8 years apart (not 30!). Second, I am not divorced nor am I a loser nor “ugly” in the eyes of some here. It is called a preference and knowing what I want. Something that comes with maturity and is deeper than anything superficial. Third, she is quite content, has a good job, really doesn’t care to be away from her family but will for our love (not poverty stricken). Fourth, she certainly doesn’t have a problem attracting native men so I am not the only one who thinks she is attractive. In fact, some men have tried to get in her head and fill it with doubts about me! Silly since they are only spewing more stereotypes and have no idea what kind of a man I am. To simply answer, we are getting married because we love each other and have become bestfriends over the course of our relationship. I could not care less about her nationality other than the fact that she is sexy, and I am fond of Filipino culture.

  31. @ “Filipina Women Insight”: No offense, that is some of the worst “insight” I have read. I am 33 years of age, 6 feet tall, slim 165 pounds, educated and stable, could date a woman here if I cared to. My fiancee is 24, petite, adorable, and beautiful, and financially independent. For crying out loud, why do people even give their 2 cents when they can only form speculation out of stereotypes. This is not reasoning.

  32. It is not because of poverty but because of what the person’s decision. When you marry you both decide because your old enough to decide I married a western man which I find him a good man and I fall for him and my sistah too so people who think Filipino woman married western man because of the money… NO! And if you are meant to you are… God knows the best…

  33. Hmmm,
    Filo tricks…No women of any nationality would marry a man 15+years older for any other reason than $, regardless of race etc…the chance of it happening for real is 1:1,000,000;
    A leason Learnt – a nice family Man who had grown children and a divorce met a Filo on the net & introduced her to his life, she moved in within a week, he was 58, she 51.
    He ran a Business & was mildly successfull, 4yrs into their relationship he sent her home to the Philipines with $18 thousand to visit her family & elderly parents. She had an Amex card, linked to his (from his business), she was told it was for emergency use only.
    Whilst in the Philipines she racked up $46 thousand dollars in one day, the banks were calling the man constantly looking for her. In the end he paid out the $46 thousand or his business partner would charge her with fraud & she would be bankrupted & so would her partner, in addition to this his business partnership was never the same.
    The day after the $46 thousand was paid – she did it again $42 thousand!
    She would not answer the phone, she would not come back to Australia. It took 3 months to get her back here, & when back here she would not provide any information on what she spent the $ on…The Man stayed with her as he loved her….
    3 years later the Man passed away with a heart attack, within a week she had removed every single $ in that Man’s bank account – he was not even able to pay for his Funeral. extremely distressing for his whole family, and how disresectful to this Man, he treated her well, she had everything she needed, a beautiful home, a good Man, clothes everything she could need but this is what happened. I am a Lawyer, this is a true story…this really happened & I’ve seen this happen more than once with Filo’s, sadly…so take care…byer beware.

  34. Some Filipinas marry American men and white men so that they can raise children with long nose,blue eyes and fair complexion….I have so many friends here who have mixed races,like Filipino-American,Filipino-Chinese.They are so gorgeous,I am so jealous ! I want to marry a foreigner like American or Chinese because having mixed races are kinda beautiful !

  35. Lots of Filipina women married to American or other foreign men because lots of men love these kind of women.Men find these women attractive and they like Filipinas because ,these women are “wife material” and values relationship a lot.

  36. “Why do so many Filipino women want to marry American or Australian men?”

    Do you really need to ask this question? I think the answer is pretty obvious to anybody who considers this question honestly. Many Filipino women want to marry American/Australian/European men for the same reasons that many women from Mexico/Colombia/Russia want to marry foreign men. Of course you can pretend and make excuses such as ‘love’ or Filipino women are nicer, more affectionate, more loyal than American/ Australian women, but in reality we know that is not true. There are many very beautiful, loving, caring and loyal American and Australian women, so those stereotypes just don’t hold water.

    The reason many Filipinos want to marry a foreigner is because it provides them the opportunity to get out of the Philippines and have a better life. The Philippines is a poor developing country, with limited opportunity for people to be upwardly mobile. Why do you think there are so many Filipinos living and working outside the Philippines? Something like ten million Filipinos working as maids, domestic staff and construction workers all over the world. One of the biggest sources of income into the Philippine economy is remittance of money from Filipinos living and working abroad, and yes many of those remittances come from Filipino women who are married to Americans and Aussies.

    Seriously if you think that these Filipino women are marrying foreign men purely for love then you are kidding yourself. Consider these points:

    1. If Filipino women were only seeking true love then why don’t they just marry a Filipino man? After all there are millions of handsome, intelligent and caring Filipino men in the Philippines. Please don’t say it is because American or Aussie men are better, or more loving etc, because we know that is not true. Americans and Aussies can be unfaithful or abusive just like men anywhere in the world, we are no better or worse. The real reason is that Filipino women know that the Filipino man is never going to earn the money to give her the lifestyle she dreams of.
    2. If Filipino women really think that American or Aussie men are more attractive or better husbands then why do you almost never see an upper class rich Filipino girl marry a foreigner? It is almost always the poorer Filipino girls who don’t have the money or the ability to travel who want to marry foreigners.
    3. One thing that people often don’t mention is there are a portion of Filipino women who after marrying an American/ Australian and living in the respective country for five years or so and gaining citizenship then divorce their husbands and take half their money and assets. True love? Yeah right!
    4. Take a look at the beautiful Filipino girls who are born in the USA or Australia and who have citizenship here. If Filipino women love white guys so much then why do you rarely see a young, hot Filipino/Australian girl with a middle-aged overweight Aussie boyfriend?

    Finally one needs to consider the type of American and Australian men who seek to marry a Filipino woman. Here in Australia when you see an Aussie guy with a Filo wife it usually looks like this: A fat 50 or 60 year old bald guy with a Filipino woman who is 20 to 30 years old, slender and attractive. Now if you think the primary motivation of that relationship is true love then you are seriously delusional. Lets face it, most Americans and Aussies who marry Filipinos are guys who struggle to attract women of their own race/nationality. These are guys who are often divorced, middle aged or older, may be single dads, often angry and bitter from past relationships, may be socially inept or have personality issues, are often overweight and not so attractive. Yes it’s true I am guilty of stereotyping here, but ask yourself this: When was the last time you saw a young, athletic, very attractive, professionally qualified and financially successful American or Aussie guy with a great personality who was married to a Filipino mail order bride? I have never seen it and the reason is because guys like that have no trouble finding an equally attractive American or Australian girl to marry.

    I don’t think it is a bad thing that many Filipinos marry foreign men, as long as everyone is happy and there is respect in the relationship then it is fine. Each person gets something out of it, for the Filipino women she gets her spousal visa to come to America or Australia, maybe the opportunity to work and study here and to send money to her family back home. For the American/ Australian guy he gets a beautiful wife that he would not have been able to attract in his own country, he gets the sex, affection and companionship that he has been missing, not to mention the home cooked food and clean house.

    Of course it is very possible for the couple to love each other and live a very happy life together. But usually love is not the primary reason why Filipino women are marrying these guys in the first place.

  37. Every women has their own reason of marrying a foreigner. Some of the reasons are the ff:
    1. Physical attraction – they are attracted to tall people because most man in the Philippines has an average height of 5’5. They also like white foreigners because they look clean.
    2. Money – they have perception that foreigners earned dollars which made them think they are richer than average man in the Philippines.
    3. Generous – most foreigners do love giving gifts.
    4. Opportunity to travel – most people not only Filipino wants to explore new things, meet new people and share different cultures.

  38. Simple and plain truth – money means more to Filipinas then anything else. It is about loose moral character and not just poverty. There are many other poor countries in the world, women would die rather then sell themselves cheap. Filipinas are worst then prostitutes. A prostitute will have sex for money and then the man leaves so his wife and children donot suffer so badly but these Filipinos try to get their hooks and claws into a man so they can suck their money – that way the children are left distraught and the wife is hurt to the soul. Everytime I see a Filipina woman with another Australian or American man I say to myself here is another gold digger to deprive the children of their inheritence. And it is not just Australians or Americans, any man with a wallet can be the victim. I personally know of a Bnagladeshi family hurt and broken because the Filipina woman thought he has dosh – it didnot matter that he has wife and children and if a cunning woman is determine dto seduce a man most of the time she can with disastrous consequences.

  39. AHhh come on people….. me love you loooong tiiime i 20 years old and i go for 80 year old austrlaian man for da money honeeyyyy i fool him loong time….. oh know you know

  40. its because Filipinas are Suckers They just want money from Foreigners. They Think if they marry White guys they will live like a queen….

  41. All i can say that not all filipina women who married to australian or american have same reasons.I notice in the other comments above,they look down the filipina.Don’t judge them.Because not all have same reasons.Like me,i married to an australian and my reason is because i love him so much and age doesnt matter,he is 20 years older than me but i don’t care as long as we live happy.Its our destiny.But as i said not all have same reasons,its because of our feelings,maybe some of them because of poverty,because they want to help their family..And beside it,other reasons also is because when the filipina australian couple have a child ,the child is mix, so she/he so beautiful/ handsome mostly i see.Others also more attractive to the personality of australian or american,or to the attitudes.Others also is discourage to the filipino men.So not all have same reasons.But this all i can say,wherever country,poverty or poor,its doesnt matter,as long as we have a good deeds to our fellowmen/women.In the Philippines,people there are so friendly,they are very good people.Additionally,many foreigners interested to filipina because we are so caring to our husband,loving,supportive and so faithful.So please don’t judge to filipina.

  42. Sorry i forgot to put NOT.All filipina women who married to american or astralian have NOT same reason.They have different reasons.

  43. Race was not a big issue for me. I just thought that if i am loved and cared it will be fine… But i met my son’s father and i wasn’t happy coz of the attitude. I would say i better find a man within my country the same culture and atleast Filipino men are caring, sincere, who can understand filipino jealousy and etc.. hehehe

  44. My goodness. I cannot believe on some of the comments I am reading. More so on Hannahzorah’s comment. How can you generalise all Filipina women to be worse than prostitues. How dare you! I arrived in Australia when I was only 9 years old, I am 31 now. My step dad is also Australian and he was more of a father to me than my Filipino father was. I was bought up the ‘aussie’ way; bbq’s, sand and surf, skippy, playschool, vegemite sandwiches, meat pies and sausage rolls. I met my Australian husband at work 11 years ago, and for the stereotype know it all; I am educated and I am a respected Senior Coordinator in the company that I work which I get paid very good money. I pay for all the bills that comes through and my husband pays for our mortgage. We also take turns in paying for our holidays (flights and accomodation), food etc. We got married because we genuinely love eachother, we have two loving sons and we could not ask for more. I think some of the comments that are made here are not thought of properly by the individual who goes off in a nonsensical tangent. Some Filipinas were not as lucky as me, who moved to Australia because her mother found a job in the country, I was able to go to a private Catholic school and attended further college education. I cannot believe how many people are so quick to judge. Look at yourselves first before you start making offensive and ridiculous comments on this page.

  45. Angel,

    If your Australian husband is poor and cannot give you Australian citizenship, would you love him and stay with him just the same?

  46. Filipinas marry white people because they dont want their Kids too look mukhang FOB . There kids will look mestiso/mestisa and become a phil mega movie star !
    Its a FOB taktak thing ! Filipinos pray for money at church !

  47. who among you here doesnt need money? its smart to marry a man who can support the woman but why blame filipinas for this? if your old fellows did not court the fili woman, then there will be no marriage…in the first place, its up to a man if he marries a woman or no,,,if he ends up to a cheater, then he is an idiot…and why are you all pointing everything to filipinas? look at your race and look at your fellow bitch out there before saying nasty about filipino women…..for sure, theres a lot of whores in your race,,,,,,take care of your old males so that they wont go out to philippines and look for someone to take care of them…

  48. well I’m a pinay 🙂 ,,, all I can say to all people who have negative thought. ,, get a f****g life its non of your business if we marry american, Australian, or same to my culture its our choice so f**k off and we all have different reasons it just same like in your countries not everyone have same wants and needs.

  49. They married with maniac child’s molesters old men because those Philippines monkey’s face have child’s body not a woman’s body.

  50. I have couple friends who have dated/married filipinos. Now the question is why? Filipino people have a very greedy mind set, specially people from province side. If the girl chooses a guy who is poor, they parents try to persuade the girl giving all types of stupid greedy reasons not to be with him. And the same parents will whore their daughter if the guy is rich. Generally it is thought that Western people are rich that is why filipino girls jump on these men like a leech. Even if the guy is not rich, marrying him will give her a US/European passport which will open the doors of ‘heaven’ for her father whose ass is sour because he couldn’t earn enough during his time. Her retarded ‘macho’ brothers who does not like to work, instead they will either lose money by betting and getting drunk at night. Filipinos are generally racist people (this I heard from a filipino friend of mine who use to study with me during college & I know this personally), the only way they judge you is how much money do you have. On the other hand, western women are more prideful than filipinos, they will rarely leech on husband’s money like filipinos do. Even if they take support from their husband, it will be for themselves only. Not like filipinos whose whole family benefits from one girl. That is why, filipino women jump more from one man to the other depending on whose richer. They are totally shameless people who live by the motto of “We can do anything for money” and they cover it in the name of their children & parents and brothers & what not. That is why their country & even other countries are full of filipina prostitutes. Now tell me which part of what I have said is wrong?

  51. i wont say your wrong ,,, but doesn’t mean pinay marry a man from a foreign land means they are prostitute :):) they are just smart thought to think for the future of their child :):) . and who’s the hell who want to marry a lazy man ??? even a foreign women wont marry a man like that ,,,, ,,, did you ever had a pinay gf ???

  52. Lets not lie to ourselves here. The reason filipinos pick western men is because of the money & passport. Its not like we are better lovers than other nationalities. Yes I dated a filipino before in another country & she was like a tank of financial needs. But that wasn’t my problem. Its when they are throwing themselves at you like a piece of meat…its all fake. A lot of old western people thinks thats their sweetness but they don’t know its because she is in the process of making money out of you & planning to bring her whole family on to you. Because in their culture the husband of the girl takes care of every thing right? Coz sons are like trail & error in Philippines.

  53. hahahaha you just made me laugh …. i think you was get hurt by a pinay girl bfor and the reason why u hate them so bad oh not just them you even blame evry filipino bcoz of your miserable life ,,,, well i just try to understand you ,,,, i wont bother myself just bcoz of u :p just keep of being jealous with us till you die mwahhh kissssssssssssssssss my ass

  54. Lol I was expecting this exact reply from you because you have no argument to prove me wrong. And for your info, I never got hurt by any filipino I just told her straight I can get you anything you want but I won’t be supporting your family & building their lives off of my hard earned money, is that wrong? And for that she called me stingy & selfish, lol…WTF? If you people are genetically & culturally leeches then its not other’s fault. And trust me, its not just me who thinks this way. And why would I be jealous of people who has no self respect. I doubt you will reply to this any more but if you do, please say something that makes more sense or something in defence of your kind.

  55. ohh sorry i didnt know that you met a kind of girl like that :):) but not evry pinay do that maybe u just met someone that who is very very poor 🙂 i have a foreign bf and we never had any problem and when i hve problem with my family i do it by myself w/out any help from him :):) and we are 2 years r now and we r still happy bcoz we have respect to each other ,,, even we argue everyday,,,

  56. Steve Williams Hi, I am married to one and I am not like of those you mentioned. I am aware of what is happening about fil-american couples, how filipina uses american to go to the US because my husband had the same experience with her ex wife who is also a filipina. I advised my husband that if he has friends wants filipina, they need to look for the educated filipina with good morals and values, very family oriented, God fearing, not materialistic, intellectual, not insecure, middle class …intact not broken family…some poor filipina who are desperate because of poverty do this to have a good life…I hope this help

  57. Not all Filipinas marry old men..lol..I think that’s a generalization..My wife is filipina & she had a few older men want to date her and she thought it was gross to marry a guy old enough to be her dad..

  58. Steve Williams, you are not talking about ALL Filipina right? I am a Filipino Chinese married to American. I was not looking for a relationship until I met my husband. We’re about the SAME AGE. My husband is a respectful person. He married me first before I gave up my virginity to him. We had hard times back in Indiana because of bad economy. Big companies shut down, gas and food prices increased but I am glad because those hard times made our relationship strong and we realized how crazy we are in love. We were broke, no food, house and no job long time ago but I’m still happy being with my husband. I told him if we have to live in the jungle or in the cave I’ll be with him. My husband is my first, one and only in this world…

  59. Many comments here about Filipina women over relationship/marriage with foreigners…and I find it so sad to note that these were very bias, unfair and cruel. We have to deal with this on the manner with a more closer look of the situation. I am working abroad, have a good friendship with a white man, for years now (take note! 4 years) yet, never did I initiate an idea of marriage. Money? nope! that’s not the reason why I left my kids and work abroad. If I ever meet this man, its for reason that I would eventually meet somebody and he or me would get interested with each other. BTW, we’re both widowed/widower. marriage? nope! not now yet…maybe someday. he’s the one pushing for it…even gets hurt when I would prefer to sponsor my kids myself than using him. S help? I don’t beg…I work hard. and I don’t mind going back to my country and be with my kids should I not be able to have them come over. please, judge gently. Each one to his/her own…’the tack that others have stepped on maybe the tack that would prick you someday…whatever measure you use to others will be the same measure for you.

  60. I am a men, age 52 years old from Los Angeles and traveled to Manila in 2013, from experience, bar girls in manila are dogs. Marrying a bar girl or any girl in the Philippines is a big mistake. Don’t get fooled by their make up and purity bullshit and sad stories because they are a stinking rat and a dog that smells like dog shit.
    Marry a girl in the Philippines and you will end up supporting the rest of her bad family that drinks, gambles and don’t care of their kids education. And the girl probably has a kid from a Filipino man that she supports her baby daddy just to keep his mouth shut. WARNING…
    girls in the Philippines are no virgins ! They had more guys then you can count. Don’t believe me? Well, they have operations performed on them to tighten all their smelling holes. In addition, girls in manila, especially the Visayans are dogs. They will beat the shit out of you if you starting talking to another girl and they don’t cook or clean.
    My advice….
    Screw them but don’t take home up to your mama.

  61. @Wiseman52: A decent, educated and intelligent man would not even step into ‘such” bars! So your comments above speak so much of what you are. Dogs love to visit garbage, garbage belongs to garbage? Mind you, there are many educated, classy and rich Filipina out there, you must be so low and cheap hence you could only afford to visit such low places.

  62. I’m the boyfriend of a Philipino woman I met in Canada. Her husband travels a lot. I’m pretty sure her husband has a girlfriend in the Philippines. I’m 58she is 54. She is a wonderfull woman great sense of humor appreciates everything. Very loveable, kind sweet all of it, she tells me she’ll never divorce her husband. How will my life be now, with this woman? What can I expect. Her and her husband stopped loving each other a long time ago. Both were having affairs before they came to Canada. He has a child with the other woman in the pacific.
    We’re crazy about each other. But I’m concerned. The relationship is complicated. Any suggestions anyone. Am I crazy? Hmmm

  63. Filipinos and other Asians can be very persuasive and sweet…when they want to be. I’ve worked with Filipinos on a daily basis, also through customer service as well. There are many who come here to the US to “get what they can”…they are fast to learn where the money is…and to find out about government programs and how to work the system…they will know better than anyone else in less time than it takes to blink an eye…they network among themselves too which gives them an advantage. They have inundated the field of nursing like rats on a ship and have literally squeezed out the typical white-female nurses…why? Because they will do it for less…at least for a time…and then within a few years that is all turned around because these people know how to get to the money. They can be charming but without depth or loyalty. They want American husbands because firstly on their minds in MONEY…how to get it and how to bring it home to their land of birth. Everytime I see a white US man with a Filipino woman (or any Asian woman) I always know he has self-esteem issues because these women work them with their overly sweet, overly attentive ways…telling him how wonderful he is and not much more…the men are the problem…they are weak.

  64. I am an Australian Woman, was happily married for 7 years. We had the grand house, successful business, all was great in the world. My husband went on a holiday with his father, both came back with Filipino girl friends. You may say, I was not a great wife, that would be an incorrect statement. I brought his kids up to be decent people. I provided for his family. Loved him unconditionally, he could want for nothing. How does this happen? All I can say to other woman,is dont let your husband into these countries for any reason. Im sure my Ex husband will find out what this woman is really after, time will tell.

  65. Most Filipino women marry not only American or Australian men BUY White guys in general. Aside from the fact that it’s their ticket out of poverty, it is also because these women have in their mind to have mixed white kids, a lot of these women feels that if they are with a white guy or foreigner they are deemed in a higher class than other Filipinos. Have you seen a lot of Filipinas with darker race? You will see very few and that’s a fact. I am filipino went to the US on my own merit, still currently working as a health professional and is making more than my American husband. He actually had changed so much from his side to blend in my family. I’m very sure there are.Filipinas out there who got married out of love but like I said the 2 main reasons were written earlier in my comments. And yes other comments are right. These American , Australian, or any foreign man are considered loser in their own country and in their own race. A lot of them do not have decent jobs, for Filipinos they’re already handsome just because they have lighter skin color why do you think Filipinos are so much into any products with skin whitening, from lotion,soap,whitening pills etc. Unless your a filipino who grew up or had been out of the Philippines for many years then you will understand more because you will know which among these foreigners married to Filipinos are really good looking and not good looking only because they’re white.

  66. What I’ve observed is that filipana ladies always prefer to marry white guys. Even the ones already settled in north america. So, it is not a money thing, or, trying to escape poverty. I am not white and I am not filipina. I am a brown guy. I have traveled a decent amount within north america, including canada. I think they are not proud of who they are and have low self esteem about their background. It is sad, if you ask me. I may be incorrect in this conclusion, but, probably not.

  67. Look at how old are they?it is the problem. All of foreigners are retire. And they can not do this in their countries.

  68. I am egyptian. But I love this country and people too.
    Why do you think all of Philipno women want to marry American or Australian or egyptian too.
    All of foreigners are cocky and stupid to think that.
    Filipina girl is smart, high educated, professional in her position. but not stupid.
    Why you are looking for faces?.

    Maybe poverty makes them disappointed.
    But they are great than others.
    This country will be best if foreigners leave it.
    Sorry I am sharp but it’s my personal opinion

  69. All I can say is that there is some serious stereotyping here.
    I am an Australian guy 52 years old and I have very little, I’m on a disability pension, have health issues, and very little money and possessions. My beautiful pinay girlfriend is 38 years old is is coming here to live with me in May 2017. She knows that I have very little but we are in contact with each other every single day, we send each other videos and also talk video on Facebook Messenger too, but you know, she isn’t after my money or possessions as I don’t have any to begin with, no instead she wants me for my love and personality and me as a whole. And to me she is my world, my everything, I love her so much, she is the sweetest girl I have ever known. She has only had one previous relationship and has worked hard all her life, so please don’t generalise about all Filipina being the same coz they are not, you do get your good and bad in any race. I should know that from past experiences being with Australian women previously.

  70. Love is blind.I married a Philippino lady because of her wonderful and gentle ways.I do not regret it for a moment.I simply hate the negative and racist comments left by people who suffers from a lack of motherly love.There would not be bad women if there were no bad men.We all have a right to choose our own partners.We are all human beings.Women deserves to be respected no matter from where they come from.

  71. The question here is.. If the Philippines had the living standard of US and Australia would any of the women in the Philippines give us a second look?

  72. Steve, your life might not be rich in your eyes, but to her you are. Be very careful, she will want everything she can get her hands on. It’s all sweet while you send videos to each other. Have you met her in person yeti

  73. Wow, there are a lot of more interesting, necessary and helpful things to talk about… Let people be!

  74. Lazy ugly looking women (usualy overweight) dreaming to find a rich man to spend their life doing nothing or becoming singer/model actress (even if they don’t have any talent). Gold digger and bigamist . As simple as that.

  75. Resources. Engrained into the DNA of every woman is the security from the acquiring of resources. Men propose, women dispose. Sorry, women really aren’t looking for good looks, six pack abs, sense of humor. When women make this mistake, a divorce typically comes next and these women marry the state for resources paid predominantly by male taxpayers.

  76. How can you say she\’s a gold digger when there\’s nothing to dig. Can you define what is rich? Just because foreigner marry a filipina it does mean she\’s poor I hate stereotyping c\’mon please make it sense. This isn\’t about race or anything, To all men out there if you\’re going to find someone just get to know her more before committing to a relationship .

  77. My father married one of these sluts. He met her in Aus. She was 20 years younger than him. Married her here. He owned his own house and money in bank to supplement his pension. He went on holiday to the Philippines and when he came back said he bought a house there and was planning to move there. Little did he know that he didn’t own the house as non citizens aren’t allowed to own property. I didn’t stop him from going. I thought this woman might look after for the rest of his life. She did. He died of pneumonia only after a year and a half. By the time i could get in contact he was on his deathbed. The day after he died he was cremated. No chance for autopsy. He was old 76. But I’m sure the reason he died was due to neglect.
    He really loved that woman but deep down I know she resented him. She just wanted his money then him dead.

  78. I have known personally a number of Australian men with Filipino wives. In each case they are extremely happy. Some time ago, my wife passed away and I have been communicating with a lady in the Philippines for a while now. I am 77, and she is 54 with a single child (the father died six years ago). Will it go anywhere? Maybe. At this time we are taking it slow and will see what happens.

  79. Some Filipino women marry foreigners to escape poverty. Most of these women come from impoverised and uneducated backgrounds. I just find it appaling that foreigners would fall for these women who do not even speak nor understand very simple English. I was on a flight and sitted to a Filipina with her Aussie boyfriend and their communication was lame dumb. Please do not conclude that all Filipino women are like them. Majority are decent and educated and would not even consider marrying divorced, pot- bellied, dirty, old foreign men.

  80. It’s very sad to read the comments of so many stereotypical, miserable and unhappy people. If people would actually educate themselves, experience and get out and travel more they would find out that the way any race is stereotyped people are like this everywhere in the world and it supersedes race….it’s called “being human”.

  81. John 8:7 Jesus said, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her”.

    John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another”

    Matthew 5:43-44 -Love for Enemies – 43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[a](A) and hate your enemy.’(B) 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you…”.

    Psalm 51:7,Isaiah 1:16-18,John 1:29 NKJV – Purge me … – Bible Gateway
    “Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow”.

  82. i have talked to many of them in the past, after a little bit chat they ask your job and how much money you get in the very beginning, as long you spend your money on them they treat you well, once a friend of me married to one of them and she dumped him taking all his money away without he notice

  83. Love these case histories. I am a white man from the U.S.. who married a Filipina eight years ago. I am a bit older, but it is not a May-December relationship. Most of the discussions here are accurate. There are Filipinas who are green card hunters, gold diggers, dragon ladies and ball busters. But that is true in many countries. I But I feel the pool of Filipinas provides good pickings. A wonderful world of beautiful, loving, caring women. Hard working too. I met my wife in Toronto. After many years of sacrifices she was on the verge of good employment, as well as citizenship. True, some Filipinas look for green cards, but we laugh, because she got ME a green card so to speak, the Canadian version of the green card. We are citizens in Alberta now. I love Canada. Filipinas take care of their man. The are resourceful and patient, but the are smart too: if it is not a two-way street, they will eventually walk. I believe Lady Luck smiles on occassion, but in my case she has spread her legs.

  84. I am a British guy and i met my filipina girlfriend on line, and then we got to know eachother over lots of writing and video calls.. from when she moved to Hong Kong for work and then onto Canada and then where I live in Spain. I’m only 5 years older than her at 47, she’s the most trust worthy, generous, loyal honest, unspoilt, petite, pretty and feminine woman I ever met, she is a bit crazy but then so am I(no one is perfect), for all that she has done for me/looked after and even preens me… I’d of never had any of this from a brutish western woman ever . we’ve come to realise we will always be together as our relationship went through many tests and still survived, we are eachothers, and we love eachothers physical, mental and cultural differences. (I guess not every pinay/westerner relationship can or should even be generalised or put in a box of each offering a favour or a arrangement, its insulting.

  85. I honestly think that the majority of Filipinas that marry foreign men, do so for financial reasons. The are mostly from the poorer socioeconomic strata of the Philippines and see marrying an American or Australian as a likely improvement in their economic condition. The American or foreign men tend to be middle aged guys who have limited prospects for finding women in their own countries. Not to mention that the advantage of the Philippines is that a foreigner can easily find women who are younger and more physically appealing than they could possibly get at home. So it is really just a marriage of convinience for both parties. A compromise whereby everyone gets something out of the deal. Many of the marriages do work.

  86. I am a good looking man, 52, divorced, never had a problem getting dates. The issue in America is the women all seem opinionated, complain when you work too much but want you to earn more to have the “lifestyle.” It gets old after awhile. It never crossed my mind to look for a woman in the Philippines. I did meet a Filipino woman online through a social app. We’ve been talking for several months, we’re 11 years apart in age, she seems like a wonderful person. She lives with her whole family and runs a little store out of her home. I asked if she wanted to move to America and she said of course. Just to test the situation I asked in a later conversation if she would be open to me moving to the Philippines and she said that would be fine too, after all she just wants to be with me. Everything about her screams, she’s a good woman. But reading all the comments online including this article, it scares the hell out of me. I want her to move to America and marry this woman. I told her if we do marry, there would be a prenuptial agreement in place where she waves all rights to any of my assets before we marry and any inheritance i receive during the marriage. These assets would be in my name only. I of course would have measures to take of her if i should pass. Am I wrong being freaked out by the comments?

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