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I am Australian. I am planning to marry a Filipina. Should we marry in the Philippines or Australia?

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“How long do we need to wait for my fiancee to be granted a visa if we get married in the Philippine? Will the process be faster if we were to get married in Australia?”

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  1. Get married in Australia.that way your wife’s entry and stay in Australia will be expedited. If you marry in the Philipines,then you’d have to overcome a lot of immigration bottlenecks as regards the genuineness of the marriage

  2. you can get married in the phillippines but it wont be recognised in australia until you register it with the Births, deaths and marriage registration. which i think she will need to be a permanent resident or citizen so i dont think it will make things any quicker.

    but if its in regards to deciding where to have your wedding what im doing is getting married here in aus with all my friends and family as well as his (i grew up here) and then going back home as well to have a bit more of a lavish wedding and also so that the rest of my family dont miss out

    and congratulations

  3. it’s ur choice man if u wanna i get marry her , may be u should bring her in AU and i get married here….

  4. The waiting times will be still the same. The approximate waiting times are about 3 years. If you marry in the Philippines then you will have to leave her for a while to come back to Australia for work etc. It will be very much the same if you marry in Australia. She still will need to go back to the Philippines until she gets her visa, which will take about 3 years. You will then need to apply for a Spouse Visa for her, in which time that she is allowed to visit and temporarily stay with you during the the later stages of the decision. It takes about 3 years for a Spouse Visa to be granted, because Australian laws on this are a lot more tight, and with a Spouse Visa they will conduct lots of interviews, some one on one and some aren’t, about your marriage, relationship, body language, how you react to each other, and general questions about each other, and also they will look at your living environment, how a typical day at home will go, and generally your love for each other, and probably a lot more other things. It sounds like a lot of work, which it is, but I think that Australian Immigration just want to make sure that your love and marriage is genuine. That’s just basically what you will be looking at in a nutshell.

  5. it is much easier for an australian to visit the phillipines than it is for a fillipino to visit australia. therefore it is simpler to get married in the phillipines

    check the department of immigration website to find out the requirements for a fillipino to visit australia http://www.immi.gov.au/

  6. It doesn’t matter as she’s probably going to divorce you soon anyway – she’s most likely just using you to get citizenship in Oz. Be prepared for the false accusations of abuse – I had one client who’s Phillipino wife beat herself with a coat hanger so she’d have bruises to show people! Abuse is one of the reasons she can leave you and get citizenship quickly without having to stay with you for the normally required time.

    I honestly hope you two will be happy but BEWARE!

  7. slightly off topic but talking about the philippines, dating a filipina lady changed my life 😉

  8. @steveK

    I am Filipino and I wont argue with you in that case. I also knew a Filipina who left her Aussie husband after selling their house and took off all the money with her.What a shame. But some Aussie men have bad intentions on marrying a Filipina , not to be his “wife” but making her a carer or alalay and abuse.(may not mean physically but from the word of mouth)So beware some serious Filipinas out there looking for a foreigner husband.Dont rush things up. Know first your would be Foreign husband well. You might fall into a quick sand.

  9. I have been engaged for over 6 months to a girl from the Philippines she is being sponsored by my church we will decide once she is here in Australia whether to be married or not that is our plan but we have to be sure once we meet face to face we talk 4 times or more a day and text and Skype 7 days a week we spend Friday night after sunset singing hyms and spend up to 3-4 hours a day sometimes more just talking about all sorts of stuff i have no doubt that i want to spend the rest of my life with her , she has a year or so to complete her nursing degree and wants to finish it here that we will sort out later but we plan on marrying asap here in Australia she we be a sponsored tourist visa ( i think ) and i don’t know what happens once we are married here .She has no children but we plan on having some asap….
    any constructive posative hepfull advice will be appreciated …
    Kindest Regards

  10. I am an american and am engaged to a phillipina woman. i love her with all my hearwhat is the first step in marrying her? what is the quickest and easiest step to get her to me asap?

  11. i’m filipino marry austarlia i’m am here now au. go back in phil end of sept apply visa again embassy say i will apply spouse visa even look internet no requitment spouse visa

    pls can you tell what are requitment spouse visa and how long take process pls email me my_real_maria29@yahoo.com

    pls help me
    thank u

  12. My best mate from Sydney was a top-notch Doctor. I say ‘was’ not ‘is’ for a reason you’ll read this further down. At 50 he was on top of his profession. I wont give away his name but I’ll call him ‘G’. G was an aussie born Italian. Typical Italian background, it was ofcourse appropriate that he marry an Italian girl. G dated many aussie Italians. He was a rich handsome bloke, but broke too many hearts each time because frustrated he never got his dream girl. Well, in actual fact he did get her many times, but he was just too fussy to choose ONE – or it was his silly ‘playboy’ lifestyle i think. Fed up, G. basically gave up on bar hopping, dating sites etc.. One day, a neighbour of G’s introduced him to his Filipino wife’s cousin who was at their house party. She was from the Philippines on a visit. She was 15 yrs younger at 35. Pretty and educated as a teacher, she worked in HK & Saudi (as most of them do for extra $$$ to send back to her family). Later, upon persuasion from his neighbour, remember G. was down depressed with low self-esteem, G. jumped at the chance to visit the filipina in her country. Their relationship had quickly developed. G. had to come back to his job in Sydney. After a LOOOONG immigration process, they eventually married in Sydney. He learnt fast that if an aussie marries a fillipina HE ALSO MARRIES her huge and extremly close family and literally hundreds of friends too. Huge families, typical catholics. All Filipinas are CUNNING & SLY (don’t be fooled by their pretty looks, deeply religions personas, shyness, delicate nature). Taught from little girls that as adult she must marry foreigner for money$$$, be domestic princess in housework, cleaning, cooking and fashion conscious (using LARGE amounts of his $$$ ofcourse). When they married, G. got a rude awakening, he would have to SUPPORT her family eg. parents, sisters, brothers sending back $$$ to her country!!! She used the typical Filipina trick fooling G. into believing SHE would be sending back money SHE already had & in little amounts. According to their culture, she’s the treasurer of the couple, she has control of all his $$$, his credit card became HERS, ALL OF IT. Every month shedding sweet tears, she’d send a large amount of money to her family (medical expenses, food, family education etc.) A few times she even visited her country to see family, leaving G. alone hard-working in Sydney, while she splurged each time over $20,000 on his credit card! By now, G’s concerned family was livid, deeply upset at this cute, sweet Filipina who slithered with sweetness into his family and destroyed G.. G. would tell his family ‘BUT I LOVE HER’. What about G’s ill family members? NUP, the filipina DIDN’T CARE to help them! G. became disillusioned. Told all and sundry about his GOLD DIGGER filipina. ‘Happens all the time’, they told him. After trying for kids for a year, they couldn’t have them , he became infertile (due to stress? age?) with sperm probs & her plan of donor sperm didnt eventuate Thank God! G. sought medical help (ironic that he was a doctor). But too little, too late. Severe Depression set in. Divorce. He left his excellent medical career, in a mess, on the pension & dependant on prescription drugs & other help for the rest of his life. In summary, G. had previously dismissed all the BELLA’S in his dating life only to have this sad ending with a witch Filipina. Lesson here buddies: stick to YOUR CULTURE and STAY AWAY from ASIAN (and other foreign) Gold Diggers !!!!

  13. Filipina’s lie to their Aussie husbands, steal, cheat on them given any opportunity and milk them of any $$$ that you worked ALL YOUR LIFE for, to support her parents, brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles, nieces, nephews and her struggling many friends back home in Phillipines. You will become her ATM machine. DON’T BE A SUCKER. Are you willing to forfeit your credit card to her permanently???? She will argue with screaming fits to you if you don’t. They’re not as good at cooking nor at cleaning. They finger-pick their flat noses and don’t care for the anglo/european way of etiquette. The stereotype that they are domesticated is a lie. They will always be on Facebook/Twitter/Skype with their family and friends (at YOUR EXPENSE $$$) EVERY MINUTE of the day. You become LAST PLACE to her family and friends. Their English accent is very very annoying – you will eventually get fed up with it. They are not genuinely religious, they use religion as a front to hook a westerner for $$$. How do I know all this? I have just ended my marriage with a Filipina because here in Australia I lost all my possessions BEFORE divorce. Get it? My Life Savings….. gone! My Houses…. gone! To make matters worse, she did what most Filipinas who miss their homeland do…… she self-harmed herself (eg slits with knives on her body) and claimed to police that I DID IT! Lucky that the police didn’t believe this – they obviously know this ploy all too well! exploiting someone who only wants you as a ticket to a better life is not really a recipe for happiness. Guys, listen to me, stay away from these devil women for your own sanity. I’m 53 divorced(no kids) and will contine searching for my beautiful sweetheart Aussie darlings, STUFF chasing foreign Asians (believe me, they are NOT better) i don’t care how long it takes. I’m here to warn you guys. Filipinas are expert manipulators, exploiters, opportunists. Take care & BE SMART!

  14. we are not affected pandel..maybe u are not good husband to her…that’s y…dont judge to any pilipina..u dont have right to say that..all wat u say is againts to pilipino people..wat do u think who u are?…

  15. I feel sorry for Pandel, wake up to yourself, “Fair Go, Mate’. You can’t go on judging a race and generalising because you’re pissed off of what happened to your married life. Take a good look at yourself, your culture, your race? You made the choice to marry her, did you respect her, did you treat her right? I hope you find the wisdom to know the difference!

  16. To John, if your mate stuck with his same race he might’ve been worse off. It’s understandable that you’re pissed off too to see your mate in a rut, but ‘get off the grass’ and stop judging people by their race, you’re background isn’t perfect either. You’re only judging by what you see and hear from your mate but take a step back and see both sides of the story before you generalise Gold Digger, would you want me call your mate a ‘cradlel snatcher’? so stop the nastiness. I hope you find the serenity to accept the things you can not change.

  17. Reading the anti Filipina posts below I can’t help thinking they may be examples of sad and sorry foreigners who meet a Filipina online and after a couple of weeks of internet chatting fall in “love” with the girl and propose marriage. Sure there are girls out there who make a cottage industry of scamming foreign guys but there are also many stupid foreign guys who just want a young sexy trophy wife to show off back home. My advice is forget the internet, go to the Philippines and take your time to get to know a girl and her family..NEVER rush into marriage, it rarely works out never mind if you do it in the Philippines or in your own country. I’ve been with my sweetheart for three years and we are only now planning marriage after our relationship survived long periods of time apart while I’m back in Australia..I’m confident it will be successful. Don’t insult all Filipinas just because you have had a bad experience or know someone who has, there’s plenty of horror stories of guys marrying Australian women and losing everything to them. As we say..build a bridge & GET OVER IT!

  18. I agree with some negative posts about Filipina as reality bites, but not only filipinos other races in evry walks of life has its own DEVILS, they are more decent filipina than your worst nightmare, What happened to you is a shame but some found the best filipina woman in their life. Next time marry a very rich woman regardless of their races, then u could have probably had a better life.

  19. I am Australian. I met my Filipina wife in Manila just over three years ago (11/2012) and we married in the Philippines. She came to Australia on a tourist visa immediately after the honeymoon and we then applied for a spouse visa through a migration agent. The final permanent visa should be granted shortly. We did not register our marriage with the Birth Deaths & Marriages department and were not required to. A certified marriage certificate from the Philippines was sufficient proof.

  20. I must say all the comments above, i can’t agree or disagree! I’ve heard so many stories about filo’s marrying aussie for 2 purpose .. $$$ or citizenship! But please do not speak as if its every filo. Not everyone are the same. I’m pinay married to Australian! i have been married for about a bit less than 7 years now. Yes, i do ask my husband’s permission if i could help my family but i do work hard and save so in case of rainy season back at home i have cash aside without affecting my day to day life/expenses as a married woman. As typical filo, i also act religious , i don’t go to church every Sunday and yes i do evil stuff, like curse or swear at people i even swear at my husband. (everyone does) Typical stereotype that filo’s are good at cooking and cleaning! I’m neither .. i don’t cook at home and in fact my husband does the cooking at home. I do clean! i do my best around the house, i’m not good at it but i try hard. My husband wash the clothes and hang them outside too! Most of what was mentioned above i do them and or don’t do! But still happily married? answer: my husband knew exactly what sort of person he is marrying in to, not just me yes the whole family! And my husband did not marry someone 3 times double his age like a lot of guys do. (Marrying someone 4 times their ages, i mean really?) Be smart , use your heart and brain and stop thinking about your Johnson! If you’re marrying for the sake of your Johnson don’t expect too much. You’ll get exactly what you’re after. (my opinion)

  21. Im from the Philippines and i dont think filipinas are as bad as you think. Im here to prove its not true. Im looking for an honest and loving partner that could share my life with. Just send email through loi_a2000@yahoo.com if you are interested.

  22. My family was torn apart from a fillipo lady,7 years,I ready to get married,and now I separate,with 2 kids,he went over to Philippines on work ,and told me it was mediation,4 times in 5 months,and then brought a house behind my back ,well 2 days I found him ,and I knocked on the door to ask what the he’ll was going on.and his new girlfriend was there,after many lies New lies,so I hope kmara gets him bad,as I now going 4 a property settlement etc,plus he had 2 face book accounts etc…. .

  23. There are bad Filipino’s and there are bad Aussies. There are many Filipina women with good intentions that have married an Aussie man. Then once they are back in Australia he lives down the pub with his mates, beats her, goes to hookers etc. Just as their are gold digger Filipinas that milk their Aussie like an ATM, get citizenship then divorce him. Remember divorce is easy in Oz, after being separate 12 months she just has to fill out some forms, attend court then bobs your uncle.
    If your 60 odd and hook up with an 19-21 yo Filipina then your probably going to get screwed. There is no way for you to even be any sort of a husband to a girl that young. She is young and perfect, you are old saggy and running out of libido.
    If however your ages are not crazy far apart you have as good a chance at making it as 2 Aussies getting married. Remember the Aussie divorce rate is around 50%. ozman599@yahoo.com.au

  24. Nah!! Hey not all Filipina are the same.. Cmon I’m going to marry my Aussie fiance.. And I swear to God now. I will never use him for anything..

  25. Im a filipina and im dating an aussie guy online for a month now and never ever mentioned $$$ even once. Its a no no. I have my own small business and i was taught by my parent to be independent in terms of money even when im married. if ever given a chance to get married to him, i asked him if he will still allow me to work. Im not used to stay at home and do nothing. Its just i had a bad experience in the past relationship with a pinoy guy. If you’re looking for a serious relationship with a foreigner and wanting to have a family, learn to respect one another. Never take advantage of that person. I believe in karma.

  26. Karma is a bitch, so if you are trying to scam someone, whatever race you are,shame on you. God sees everything.

  27. I have been in a relationship with my same-sex partner in the Philippines for over 9 years , over that time I have traveled to be with him each year sometimes twice a year, the longest being 3 months. He has been to Australia to be with me twice, 3 months at a time, but the last time was rejected, because there was not enough proof he would return even though he had been here twice before without a problem. I have totally supported him since 2007 sending finance every week or fortnight, everything he does is financed from me down to the food he eats. We have kept in contact every single day by phone, skype or Facebook, we share our lives as partners. All this can be backed by evidence from 2007 until now. During that time I financed his sister through nursing school, she is now a RN living in the US with her husband. I also financed his Niece in Business management, she has graduated and manages a food franchise. Unlike his sister, as same-sex partners we do not have the equal privilege of using a Fiancé Visa but must apply through a Partner visa which has a 12 month living together requirement. As I am the soul provider of both of us it is impossible for me at the age of 54 years to leave my job and live there with him without income and they have rejected his application of a 6 month visa to Australia in the past.
    So it is a dilemma, they require 12 months living together but reject the visa application to complete this, we meet every other requirement but the psychical 12 months together, every day our lives are shared emotionally, all our plans are considerate of each other, I have lately financed his further education in computer graphics while having to set up an apartment for him. Even though I was happy for his sister to get a fiancé visa to the US, I felt down and out that the same privilege is not afforded to us, because if it was we would have been together long ago. I had hope when I learnt that Australia would be voting on a same-sex marriage bill as it would be the answer to all the problem, but my heart sank as it became a political issue and now has become stifled. Is it possible for us to still apply giving our circumstances? Can the 12 month living together requirement be wavered do to our situation? Where do we go from here? This has got me so down at times as I can’t see a solution, our relationship has endured all these years but I don’t want to have to wait more years for us to be together.

  28. I understand everyone’s point here and yes I do agree that there are SOME Filipinas who go after to a foreigner for money, citizenship and alot more. But, c’mon wake up! We shouldn’t generalize everyone. I am a Filipina, I am a teacher and I am saddened by hearing these kind of stories. My sister is married with an Aussie and yet they are happy. It’s who you choose and how you choose it. Why not think of positive that a Filipina would want to marry a foreigner because she fell inlove with him and would want to spend the rest of his life with him! Some marriages don’t work out well but, if you think of it at the start then maybe you’ll end up with that. Be positive because thinking negative attracts negativity.

  29. Regarding the question stated above. You can choose whether to be married here in Ph or in Au. But, marrying here in Ph would give your partner a peace of mind, level of security and of course since she’s a woman she would love to spend her wedding with her family. God bless to your marriage and I hope it will workout well. Just don’t forget to pray for the strong bond of your marriage, love with all your hearts and of course understand each other. ❤

    I am only 21 and am so happy seeing people getting married . Be happy and savor every monet together.❤?

  30. people has two kinds of attitude all over the world it is bad and good so dont judge just try to know her/him first then youll be know who is she/he ofter knowing each other….

  31. and how about me? i am willing to marry aussie man but i dont kwor where i can find that good aussie man… hehe.. can u help me? here’s my number +639293300572 i am a Filipina,..thank you

  32. Life is what u make it give a man a fish u feed him for aday teach him how to fish feed him for life y u tolazy to some one less fortunenate instead giving money let them work for it its your money u cansay no be real

  33. For all the bad comment about Filipina , not all Filipino are the same, as not all Aussie are good too, but one thing I am sure of is our attitude depend on how you treat us, maybe you’re bad husband the reason why she did that to you.

  34. Not all filipina are like that. Maybe some but not all. I’m a filipina and I have a Australian fiance we both agreed to get married in here and planning to remarried in Australia in the right. Don’t judge all the filipina because we’re not all the same.

  35. I admit I have not always been the nicest guy. I have known three beautiful pinay ladies intimately over the last 10 years. One of them was a game playing scammer… The other two were amazing … Don’t listen to all these negative comments. There are some beautiful, honest, amazing pinays out there. There culture is not the same as yours, what’s important to them is not what’s important to you, they don’t think the same as you and your Western way of thinking. Get over it. Learn the culture, understand lambing and tampo, if you don’t like tampo behavior have a crack at reasoning.. Don’t.be a dumb ass Westerner and give us a bad name.

  36. The stories about Philippino women is outrageous to say the least.There are bad people in every culture.My wife is a Filipina who has a degree,worked hard to help me in my business and together we have turned it into a multi million dollar concern operating in two countries.I am very proud of her and her achievements and the fact that she donates liberally to local charities.So enough of this bullshit.If there were no bad men there would not be bad women.

  37. Took me about 10 months to get a prospective marriage Visa for my fiance approved in Australia and about $7000 for online Immigration application plus extras medical exams, cenomar , Police clearance iD, intent of intended marriage application to be filled out by a priest or celebrant.

    the most important thing is to show that your relationship is truly genuine this mean Include visiting the Philippines regularly.

    Take many pictures together and save all receipts that you spent including engagement ring receipt receipts for money sent for example with world remit continuing support financially family photos
    Videos,letters,Chat messages, copy of letters, and anything else that could help.

    So that’s my experience and I’m now awaiting my beautiful kind hearted and humble Filipino Girl to catch the plane for us to be together I can’t wait ?

    Just be wise and sure that what you have together is Genuine and once you are together treat her well with love and respect and understanding.

    Many people have a good thing and by here actions they spoil it so don’t be one of those people
    Treat her good and be loyal to her and love her and she will do the same

    God Bless

  38. to all Aussie men, sadly in far too many cases JOHN and PANDELIS are 100% correct. Get a prenuptial and tell the family to get off their asses and get a job. I can speak from experience, some Filipinas are great, many that marry foreigners are fake, lying scammers, aided, assisted and educated on how to do it by family and friends. I tried to buy my ex in laws a job, i sent a deposit to buy a boarding house, they stole the money. I bought my kids a farm, somehow the mother in law ended up with her name on the title. The farm makes $20,000 profit per year, myself, my kids have never and will never see a cent of it. This comes from people i gave a life too, they couldnt even pay their electricity bill. Less than 6 months after my ex wife got citizenship here, i paid for her to go to philippines, cause she missed her family so much. I met her there a few weeks later to find she had a bf and no longer wanted to be married, although still continued to use me. She has lived with 3 different guys in the past 4 years, her friends are just disgusting people, all fake also. Its just a blessing i will raise the kids, dont be fooled by that, its largely because her social life and climbing the ladder of life and wealth was much more important

  39. These idiots putting down Fillipino women!! I have been with my girl for two years and she has NEVER asked me for money!
    Stop calling them all scammers,you fools doing so!!

  40. Marry in the Philippines with her family because they are the centre of her existence and always will be. She is a stranger in Australia and possibly will never really feel completely comfortable amongst non Filipinas. The cost is another consideration. Australian weddings, if you go the whole hog, are very expensive. Not so in the Philippines. The honeymoon cost is another consideration. My beautiful Filipina wife of five years and I honeymooned in Baguio where the climate is more conducive to bedtime activities and enjoyable as a tourist destination. Additionally, when you return home to visit her family you can revisit your honeymoon destination and relive those exciting days. Hope this helps readers as I note the original post was many years ago and hopefully by now that is no longer an issue.
    One last thought. If you plan a church wedding there will be issues unless you are both of the same religion.

  41. well, im looking for a wife , so if your overseas or in australia send a email, I have heard some many stories, what about the men that abuse the woman ,treat them bad, they dont all stay they end up being returned to their country because he cancels their spouse visa. so no not all are bad , If you know of a nice woman send a email

  42. I was seeing a very attractive Filipina girl when I was 29. She was 25(dad was US Marine) in Brisbane. One of her associates told me how mean she was. I didn’t believe her, I was in love with her. Little did I know she was dating older wealthy men in between me going out and spending nights over at her apartment. She had a very pure US accent. She returned to the Philipines for a month. One night soon after I visited her back in Brisbane and noticed she had a ring on her wedding finger. She said without emotion that she had gotten engaged to a US serviceman. No remorse, nothing. She would treat me like crap out in public at night. Talk on the phone to male “friends”. This was 2002. No smart phones or Facebook. I eventually stopped going to visit her after and took a two year job in Melbourne. Two years later, I received a phone call from her to have a chat. I told her I was due back a month later in Brisbane. She called me again in December wanting to catch up. But being naïve, I did call back a few times and she didn’t answer. I actually then lost my phone and the contact with her. I often wonder where she is and what would have happened. In every box of a Apples there is most often a rotten one.

  43. I am currently having communication with a 54 year old Philipina woman. She has a single child, a young girl, who she adores and cares for. She also has worked hard in the food industry to support her daughter. She exercises each day and at the present time is homeschooling her daughter. She is well aware of the multitudes of Toads who simply go to the Philippines to have a good time with pretty girls. She wants her daughter to have a good education, and to do it she is hoping to start her own business after the lock down. In my relationship with her, I have made it abundantly clear that I am not in a position to provide cash for anyone. She has never asked for money, either for herself, or any other. I may marry this lady in the future, but at the moment, taking my time. I want a woman for my wife, not mindless arm candy ( regardless of how pretty she may be).


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